Well I guess things can't always go smoothly, my only problem is I don't know what to do ar say for the best. I'm miffed, no actually I'm angry, and when I'm angry I tend to say things I later regret, so I'm here venting my frustration to you guys and hopefully getting some good advice in return.
When I dropped Vince off yesterday morning we'd made plans for dinner, I was cooking! He mentioned he may have a couple of drinks after work and would ring when he was on his way so that I could 'time the dinner'. Time ticked by. At just after 9 my mobile rang, I could see it was Vince but by then I was already miffed and so didn't answer. He didn't leave it ringing for long and didn't call back! At 9.12 I received a text 'Got a quiz going. Be home soon. Blame Patrick x' So did that mean he was on his way or not? I went to bed, I'd lost my appetite anyway. 23.12 another text 'Nearly there, sorry I'm late x' Totally pissed off by now, tried very hard to fall asleep.
He appeared around 23.30, stuck his head around the bedroom door asked if I was ok and then went to watch his 'Hollyoaks' spin off thing on tv. I woke up at 1.20, Vince was still in the lounge and asleep. Against my better judgement I went in and woke him up telling him to come to bed which he did. He did try to cuddle me, well he flung his arm around me before falling asleep. I got up early this morning, not sure what I might say so decided it was probably better I stayed out of his way. In the lounge I found a sachet of ketchup and in the kitchen bin the remains of his supper which he'd brought home with him! Again I could feel myself getting angry.
The drive to his this morning was 'strained' I actually commented that he was quiet without much of a response. He asked about dinner tonight, his turn to cook and I commented that we'd still got last nights ingredients as I had been waiting for a call? He said that he had called and I'd not answered!!!! Anyway he could reuse some of the things! As he got out the car I said 'See you later' (habit) to which he replied 'If you're lucky' (although he was grinning) Well, I'm afraid that pushed me over the edge and I snapped back something along the lines of, 'Well if that's how you feel don't bother' He did stick his head through my window for a kiss, he received a peck, then I drove off!
Now I'm at work, still feeling miffed. I know that he's been a single bloke for nearly 42 years, and I don't want to change him or impose 'rules' on him. All I wanted was for him to tell me that he wasn't going to be back for dinner so that I could have sorted myself out, am I being unreasonable? How do I put my point across without sounding like a nagging partner already?? Do I just let it go as a one off and hope it doesn't happen again, or should I make it clear how I feel about things from the start? I know it may sound as if I've blown this out of proportion, but I don't intend becoming the doormat I was when I was married.
